Last week was great. On Wednesday I went to the fireworks on the seafront with Clark for the second week in a row and they were just as awe inspiring as I remembered. There is such a great atmosphere there and combine that with the night sky and my favourite place on earth (the beach) I had a lot of fun.
On Thursday I had a really hectic day but was coerced into cooking for Clark in the evening. I ended up drinking a lot of wine and it ended up being drunken cooking. Having not actually cooked the meal before and that I was in someone else’s kitchen using their strange implements and oven, it went as well as it could’ve gone when you’ve had a lot to drink.
On Friday I met some of Clark’s friends who were really nice. Something my nan used to say (and what my mum says now) is that nice people have nice friends. It questions my niceness though – I honestly do think that I’m the nicest person I know and although my friends are nice to me, I know that they’re not nice to everyone. I have a lot of friends but they are dotted all over the world and due to my upbringing, I keep in touch with them via Facebook. Anyway, Friday evening we went for a meal and then walked along a different beach. It was beautiful and I felt very special. That was until I had some family problem to sort out which Clark helped to quickly resolve.
Saturday we had to go get my little boy and we took him out for the day. He is so good and makes me very proud to be his mum. We drove around for a while and ended up parking up in a lay by in Sandringham, near the Queen’s house. We were surrounded by trees and it was nice and quiet and peaceful and very green. We then got out my Trangia portable stove and cooked some hotdogs. It was a lot of fun and something really nice to do. I was in charge of the hotdogs while Clark prepared the buns and sauces. We then found a little castle and had a nose around the outside because we didn’t want to pay to have a quick look. The moats were amazing as was the view from the top.
That evening we went back to my house for a family BBQ. Clark found my family dynamics really strange but I guess when you’re used to them, they don’t seem strange anymore. Usually at family BBQs I’m left by myself to watch my little one and niece and tidy up but this time Clark played with the kidlets while I could quickly sort stuff out. It was nice to have the help. My niece is usually chronically shy around people she doesn’t know but she loved Clark – it was really shocking.
On Sunday it was time to take Clark back home as his little girl was coming back from her two weeks away with her mum. It’s only been a couple of days but I miss him a lot despite phone calls and emails and Whatsapp messages. He only lives 20 something miles away but it feels like much more sometimes. I then have to remind myself that in the grand scheme of things we haven’t known each other that long and that we both have complicated lives that makes seeing each other difficult.
Yesterday Clark shared something with me that highlighted the difficulties we have. He’s only been out of his last long term relationship 8 and a half months (two and a half of them he has known me) and he still has a very very close relationship with his ex. It’s all a bit complicated but I find it difficult to keep my mouth shut because it’s none of my business. I also don’t want anyone to think I’m trying to persuade Clark to do stuff he wouldn’t otherwise do. I try to only give an opinion if I’m asked which is working out well for the moment. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he tells me everything and I like that he feels he can. That’s what people who are close to each other do, right?
I got a bit freaked out yesterday. I had a dream which brought an old concern to the forefront of my mind. I’m worried that I’m a rebound girl and Clark will wake up one day and see that actually he is better off with someone else and what we’re doing is just a bit of fun. I don’t think anyone has managed to get me to take my guard down and it is totally gone with Clark so I essentially tell him everything – even the totally unnecessary stuff (‘Just shaving my legs’ or ‘my PJ top smells like you’). I wonder if all these insecurities are coming out now because I’ve become even more attached to him because of the time we’ve spent together or because I am about to turn into a complete hormonal lunatic.
I was worried about confusing my little boy the other week but now I’m selfishly thinking about me. Am I ready to be crushed if this doesn’t work out?